Stalkers: Are They  Lonely or Just a Turn Off?

By Lynn A. Granata

There's so many of us who have played the dating game. Searching hard for strategies to find a perfect match.

However, many times more that perfect match turns out to be less than perfect. Stalkers come to mind whenever this topic arises.

So what is exactly a stalker must you ask?

Stalkers are people who for some reason are plagued with the fear of abandonment. Many of times they have a personality disorder.

 The most common personality disorders for them are borderline personality, narcissistic personality, avoidant personality, and obsessive compulsive personality.

If you break up with them, until that time comes on quickly enough, it is then and only then that you begin to learn the truth about their stealthy habit.

They will continue to call you and ask for dates long after the relationship has ended.

Ignoring them does absolutely no good. Why do they continue to chase you long after you have broken up with them? Well they are in denial. They feel oft times betrayed and are doing it out of spiteful anger.

While you were dating them, they portrayed some upsetting characteristics bordering on eccentric.

 They may have tried to do a number of things to you without your consent, for instance. That is a turn off. The negativity of their way of acting is an incredible turn off.

 They seem as though they wallow in sorrow all the time. Nobody wants to be around a stalker.

 Stalkers need help and are very toxic. If you are involved with a stalker, don't just pretend they are not there. Seek help for them if nothing else transpires.

 As they can become more dangerous as time goes on. It's important they get to a health center where they will receive an evaluation and medication if necessary.