Women want Men Who Will Support Them


By Lynn A. Granata

Have you ever met a man who charms you so much that you believe that -Hey, he may be the One?

But after he called you approximately 39 times within a month's time, then you see him, but then you find out he's not who he says he is?

It has happened to me.  I will not disclose this person's name, for privacy purposes.

At first he was sweet, and quite impressive.  He wanted my phone number, I gave it to him. He called me sometimes 2 or 3 times within a day. When I first started talking to him on the phone, I told him I wanted to meet at the Village Cafe. No! he insisted. I want you to meet me, or meet at the Village Playground (not real name of place). So, I said Okay. We meet there. Things don't turn out too bad. I get up and want to go to the place where we should have met, the Village Cafe, again this is not the real name of the business, undisclosed for privacy purposes. 

Nah, he says. So, I tell him that since this is technically a date, I don't want to go walk up there alone. He rode his bike to this meeting, and I took the bus. So then he agrees to come walk with me to the coffee shop. Low and behold, he locked up his bike to a pole outside the shop. I waited for him to do that, so we could walk into the shop together. Once we get inside the shop, he plops down in a chair at a table.  He doesn't go up to the counter and order a coffee or sandwich or anything. So, naturally I don't hesitate to go up and order my lunch. He didn't eat anything at all, he tells me he doesn't like coffee or tea. Of course you can understand he never paid for my order. He wouldn't order nothing, nor did he at least have the class to pay for my coffee and sandwich. We sit there, he hates the music that's playing on the shop radio, saying it's too loud.

I find out later this guy has never held a job, was once homeless, divorced with 3 grown children who take him everywhere, like he's a child. And the most worst of all, he doesn't have/own a car. He doesn't want to drive a car, I kept coaxing him to get a car! I myself have been without a car, for the last year, and I can't stand it!  My mom's car got towed away for reasons that I just can't talk about. She passed away last March 2014.

He tells me he's into the "green" movement and that he gave up driving. That didn't sound right. You can be into the "green" movement, but you still can drive.  Was he ever in trouble with the law? I do believe he was. His son drives a Prius. Why not he?

I was hoping for a husband to come my way, really.  I am alone both my parents have passed away, I have settled their estate and got their house.  So I fell into depression once again once he stopped calling, then I realized that he may have been concealing something. The something turned out to be that he was dating several women at once.  He did say that he belonged to an online dating site, Plenty of Fish.  But that the people he had met in it were weird.  I don't bother with any of those, I told him, as the risks are high that a woman could meet another Ted Bundy.

Well, I don't intend on boring my readers anymore, as you can see this guy is a dud.

Here is my list of what I had hoped for, since meeting him was unexpected.

 I thought that he had a car, at least one, if not two.

It would have been the perfect match if he was never married with no children.

He didn't live in a nice house, house looks rundown and in a rundown section of town, house unsafe needs a ton of repairs.

He said that his job was that he ran a homeless shelter. But homeless shelters cost money, they don't generate a profit, he lied about himself. He himself is homeless!

He took out his wallet, he had no cash, but a SNAP card and a public assistance bus pass.

I expected him to have been a former state retiree, collecting a pension.

He told me that he worked at the maximum security prison, was he ever in that same prison as an inmate or was he really an employee? There's a huge difference between the two, and it has to be one or the other.

He was expected to have a running car, so that we could go out on dates.

He refused to visit my lovely home, but he insisted I go to his, no way! The guy must go to the girl's house first, never the other way around.

He insisted I meet him in a park, instead of saying "Okay" honey, wherever you want is where we'll go.

He flirted with an another woman, while we were together in the Village Park on the second and what turned out to be a final date. Good Riddance! He called for about a week after that, and I was too busy to meet him anymore, thus he abruptly stop calling just 5 weeks after we met. I wouldn't get nowhere with him, because a tiger, plain and simple doesn't change his stripes.

However, it would have been blissful if he had turned out to be less crude. There's a strong possibility he may be a misogynist.

 Here I was figuring that getting asked out, was going to make my life brighter, after I had suffered a whole year of a string of losses.  If he didn't like me, then why bother asking me out? He wasted my time, and made me sick, he made me revert back to being depressed.  Girls should never be treated this way. I was feeling better, met him, he turned out to not be Prince Charming, and backward it set me. 

 I want to make a note that this subject matter is very sensitive, but I wanted to get it off my chest. So, I share it with you, my readers.